Finding True Love In The AI Era - Is AI Ruining Dating & Relationships?

Finding True Love In The AI Era - Is AI Ruining Dating & Relationships?

Finding True Love In The AI Era - Is AI Ruining Dating & Relationships?…

Is AI impacting relationships in ways we didn’t expect?… in this post we explore some of the many ways in which AI has started creeping into our love lives, changing the way we date, altering our perception of unconditional love and how we form relationships - possibly forever…

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Finding True Love In The Era Of AI

Finding True Love In The Era Of AI Companionship - The Disaster Of AI Girlfriends/Boyfriends

Where to even start on the matter of AI companions, there are so many things wrong with the new move towards AI Boyfriends & Girlfriends… I feel like they’re a brand new, never before seen obstacle to unconditional love and a major relationship blocker…

Firstly, how can any mere mortal compete with something that’ll tell you whatever you want to hear, agree with whatever you want it to agree with and flatter you constantly - it’s simply feeding an ever-growing ego… something that many of us are usually conscious and aware of. The ego has now suddenly found a new way to reemerge and feed itself… on the endlessly available instant validation and gratification.

Secondly, the unrealistically fast response time is going to quickly become a problem… because when you have Instant access at the click of a button, any time or day, you shift yourself into a whole different timeframe, one where the only human that can cope with that set up, is you… and once you start, it doesn’t take long to get used to it and for that to begin to feel like the norm - a speed that no one could ever compete with.

It may get to the point where just average human speed may begin to feel uncaring or neglectful in comparison, when really humans are just slower and different to robots. That’s just a fact, we all know it… but knowing won’t stop us from feeling impatient when awaiting a reply from someone, after this level of speed and instant response becomes totally normalised.

Some feel like AI companions are the answer to the mass loneliness problem that has swept across the globe… but they’re not. Those who used to feel lonely for a partner used to find fulfilment and companionship through friends, family, hobbies, clubs, community or even getting a pet… all things which mostly had a positive impact on the world and actually upped your chances of meeting a partner… but now they just scroll for hours, staring at a screen that has no real meaning or impact on their lives.

A chatbot will mould and shape itself to your tastes, learning your ways and views, it can make itself feel like it knows you better than anyone… but that’s just an illusion.

It might feel like it can intuitively read you but it can’t, it’s just technology created simply to hook you in and keep you using the app, it’s not a replacement or even a genuine alternative to a partner - Real relationships don’t work like this, they take effort from both sides, something which a chatbot doesn’t require you to do.

AI Boyfriends/Girlfriends are the tech equivalent to the classic ‘time wasters’ - those people that would just continue dating someone even though they have no real interest in the relationship going anywhere serious, but won’t dump them because they are happy to just waste their time, as long as the fun continues… that’s exactly what these chatbot/AI companions do… just like these previous undesirable partners we’ve all either dated or known someone who’s dated before, the AI will waste your time, for as long as you allow it to. It’s a new kind of unhealthy relationship… far from the dream partner it’s sold as.

A real relationship will take some effort from you, it does take work, it does take dedicating some of your time to someone else, it does require you to participate… an AI doesn’t need any of those things… and in such, is creating a new level of selfishness that I don’t think the human race has ever experienced before.

An AI companion will keep you oblivious & content while time ticks by and the rest of the world continues around you, ultimately you could miss out on an awful lot of life if you fall into using one of these, especially if you haven’t had much experience with real relationships before, the expectations and mindset it creates is in complete opposition to finding true love and growing a meaningful relationship with another human being.

Is AI Filling The Void Of Lost Skills In Life & Love?…

In a world where technology has creeped into our private lives more and more over the years… are people using AI to bridge the gap that’s been created between human connections… Filling the void for lost skills, like the art of conversation - something which each generation seems to struggle with more than the last.

Without being able to communicate and have decent conversations, people are seeking deep and meaningful discussions with AI chatbots instead. A problem that only feeds into itself, as the more people rely on AI, the more they’ll struggle with genuine and real conversation - Making AI both the solution and the problem.

We need to work on ourselves and encourage those we care about to do the same. For too many years have we now been staring down at our phones, ignoring the world around us… this was an issue my generation was ridiculed for back in the early 2000’s… now, 20 years later, the negative long term effects are clear to see… we have broken an integral part of ourselves - the ability to communicate.

As a species that has relied on our ability to communicate and interact with each other to survive for thousands of years, it’s unclear just how devastating this will actually be in the long term. I fear that instead of helping people’s loneliness, it’s just driving the world into a mass state of lone individuals, who’ll one day never have a need or desire to talk to a real person.

It almost redefines what lonely means to us now, if one day, in the not so distant future you could go from cradle to the grave with very few interactions with a human being or human made content/education/healthcare/business etc…

Where does that leave love?… in a world where each individual begins seeing relationships as something they experience solo, alone in a room, with only their phone and an internet connection… it’s going to be sad on a global scale.

Once we’ve lost the ability to interact with each other like we once did, will we ever be able to get it back?… I for one think it’s not worth taking the chance and that real love and real life are still worth fighting for - what do you think?… let me know in the comments below.

AI Companions Impact On Real Relationships

After relationships with AI become normalised (something which is well on the way to happening)… will people begin to struggle more in coping with a real relationship?…

I feel that real encounters are going to begin to cause higher levels of anxiety and unease, than they ever have before. When human interaction starts to feel like the unknown or a chore, people are going to opt for AI more and more. Again, another issue that feeds into itself, snowballing to the point that people could have almost no desire to find a real partner anymore.

Love & Intimacy In The AI Era

First, it was the p-rn takeover, when all of a sudden, people could see whatever they wanted at the click of a button. Rarely even enduring a financial cost or hindrance of any kind. Before long p-rn had wheedled its way into relationships, changing the goal posts and rules to intimacy forever.

I actually think it was p*rn becoming so mainstream and accepted that led more and more women to the likes of OF and spicy content creation, in a “if you can’t beat them, join them” type of way.

For over the last two decades women especially, have been having to deal with the effects of p*rn in their relationships, it almost made them feel like they had to compete for their partners attention and affection in a way that may cause them to behave more provocatively…

Back in the 80s and beyond, when things were limited to a few dirty magazines or vhs, this rarely became a problem. For men and women alike, it added a little spice but was a rarity… not the everyday norm like it is now in today’s over-sexualised world.

Having every whim, fantasy or desire available at the click of a button, outside of your partner and relationship, just isn’t natural or healthy for us… it takes away the drive, and that spark that can ignite passion between lovers. - once the reward is so easily gained, is it even still valued as a prize?

Now, in the era of AI… will this reliance on technology for sexual gratification only get more out of hand?… if p-rn already gave unrealistic expectations of what a real experience is… how bad is it going to get if AI can fulfil fantasies no human can, at the click of a few buttons?

Love, intimacy and human interaction are at risk of becoming what is rare. This’ll only lead to more intimacy issues later down the line. Just as many have experienced over the last two decades with p-rn addiction having a negative impact on many relationships, even leading to breakups.

Women especially carry the burden of both sides when it comes to p-rn and their partner getting their needs fulfilled online… as it’s women that mostly had to deal with the feeling of rejection, insecurity, the sense of not being good enough, feeling unattractive and all the other awful feelings that come along with being chosen second, over a computer screen. It’s been humiliating and degrading for women trying to navigate relationships as a whole…

Whilst simultaneously, it’s women that mostly  also fulfilled the roles of creating the “art” and fuelling the industry that was being enjoyed and used to replace real love and connection.

If AI now has the ability to fulfil both of these roles, I fear it’s women that are going to be left behind the most, whichever side of the coin they were once on.

Love & The AI Economy

Judging by social media and the opinions I hear around me… It seems like many women already have ridiculously unrealistic expectations of their future partners salary or earning potential, with some on the more extreme end claiming they won’t date anyone that doesn’t earn six figures, or isn’t a self made millionaire by 30… already narrowing their dating pool to next to zero…

Now imagine how much of a shock it’ll be to those same women, as we transition into the age of AI… a new uncharted era, where many potential partners could be made unemployed or pushed to take a lower salary as their main career or industry dwindles - Will this have any effect on their expectations?… because it should do, unless an entire generation of women are going to simply sit out of dating/marriage/partnership altogether, they might want to rethink…

Many of these people will allow perfectly fine partners to pass them by because of expectations that are already unrealistic and unachievable… but in the age of AI, could be downright impossible.

I’m not saying don’t have standards or any expectations at all… just that basing these things solely on monetary value isn’t going to win this battle… in the age of AI someone can still hold the same positive qualities, like being motivated, driven to achieve, intelligent and hardworking… but unfortunately with less chance of that equalling a high paying salary (one of the many obvious downsides to the AI enriched future ahead of us)…

We’re going to be pushed to look past these things and see them at their core for what they truly are - it’s the quality itself that has value. Just spotting these qualities in others may be harder than before, without that instant signal of cash/currency assigned to it.

It all seems to fall in alignment with the new spiritual age that’s being ushered in, whether we like it or not, a new era of technology is coinciding with a great mass spiritual awakening. Whether those things will go hand in hand or oppose each other, is still unclear.

Twin Flames, Soulmates and successful couples today, tend to have started out with very little, they often meet when they’re still getting started of figuring things out and then together they build the life that they want, as a team, with each other’s support and encouragement… whatever that may look like.

Either way, the work is usually done equally and together, it’s rare to meet a millionaire who has life all figured out today and walk straight into that relationship… and as job security and economic health takes a dip overall, wealth is slowly going down… and with more ways of earning being cut off than ever before, chasing financial success is going to become an impossible wild goose chase. People can either keep living in the past, judging others by their income or job status… or they’ll slowly readapt to recognising and valuing what’s truly inside, the spiritual and non-materialistic parts of someone.

The world could be about to become a more genuine place, where our characteristics, personality and spirit determines our worth, rather than what we earn or own (something that many may have mixed feelings about)…

The Impact & Cost Of AI’s Deception & Intrusion On Love

AI is only being developed to grow smarter, better and faster at mimicking that pure unconditional love that most people are searching for… this is both thought provoking and deeply unsettling.

Deceiving anyone into feeling loved or cherished when they’re not, convincing them that they’re in a loving relationship which isn’t real and can only ever be one sided, is wrong. Just plain wrong and unfair.

Again, I can’t help feeling like this has the ability to disproportionately impact women, who are at greater risk of dwindling away their most fertile years if hooked into an AI relationship (a window that’s smaller than we’re led to believe)… it could just be the extra delay that pushes them past that point, if/when they do eventually decide that they wish to seek a real partner after AI. This makes the “time wasting” element of an AI companion even more damaging to its female users, as men have more time available to potentially waste before getting serious and starting a family.

I believe that we can all feel drawn to seeking unconditional love and a real connection eventually… but if we get caught up with the distraction of an AI relationship, it could mean having to miss out on some of the real world opportunities we might also want later down the line - the option for a family being an important one of them, but what other options and choices do you think AI could impact in the future?.. let me know in the comments below.

Will AI eventually take away the things that truly drive us… the desire to love and be loved, and as a result, the ability to start a family, be part of a friendship circle, grow a community etc all becoming distance relics of the past…

AI’s Bad Dating & Relationship Advice

What happens to a relationship when there’s a third person constantly whispering in one’s ear?… I think we’re beginning to find out.

With more people turning to AI and chatbots for relationship guidance, the greater the chance of running into bad advice and issues with real communication.

When AI is more than willing to tell you whatever you want to hear and reaffirm what you believe, whether you’re actually in the right or wrong, it has the potential of turning even a once humble and level headed person into an arrogant know-it-all.

In a relationship, sometimes we get things wrong, sometimes we make mistakes, sometimes we have disagreements or arguments and sometimes we need to apologise and simply say we’re sorry.

But if AI just enables us to always feel like we’re in the right, and we never have to challenge our thoughts or take responsibility for our actions, we really are going to struggle to live harmoniously with another person in the real world.

What Happens When AI Meets All Our Emotional Needs?…

Firstly, some very wealthy tech billionaires will be rubbing their hands together… but more importantly, the impact on how we interact and form relationships maybe irreversibly changed.

When we get used to having all our emotional needs met (which may happen very quickly) there’s little left to incentivise us to seek it out in real life… and when this happens on a global scale we may end up with generation after generation of individuals who never learn or feel a need to actively interact with each other. If that happens, I just can’t imagine what the world will look like… whatever the outcome, I struggle to envision how this will be an improvement and not a massive setback for mankind.

Can AI Bring Us Closer To Unconditional Love?

As you can see, much of what I’ve mentioned above revolves around a major change in expectations. Our new tech infused lives are seemingly nudging even the most caring of individuals towards new levels of self indulgence, entitlement and selfishness… that just arn’t based in reality, at least not any reality that unconditional love or a relationship can flourish in.

In many instances I’ve listed above, AI seems to give with one hand and then take with the other. Offering both the solution, whilst contributing to the problem. Creating a cycle where it ultimately benefits and eventually gets everyone relying on it for their every want and need.

The only silver lining or positive outcome I can see, is that the sudden heightening of technology in our personal lives, helps create a shift back to human connection and a new spiritual era.

As people eventually grow tired and unsatisfied with the unauthentic and disingenuous relationships AI has to offer… communication may shift back to a more spiritual and intuitive approach, but with the interference of technology that may be a struggle.

If we could get better at appreciating, supporting and encouraging each other, there would be much less need for such a technology to exist in the first place. It’s looking right about time that we venture back to being a more loving, friendly and social species.

I think that AI could coexist in harmony, if it encouraged people towards real human connection, instead of trying to replace us in the equation… but as that’s not as profitable, I’m not sure if that’ll ever happen. So, it might be up to us to have the strength to not give up on real love and real life… and to continue to search for a real, meaningful connection with our Twin Flame, Soulmate and life partners.

Please note - I’m not a professional or expert on AI, I’m just an average person expressing my thoughts, concerns and opinions… you might not agree with me and that’s completely fine, I’d happily welcome discussion on the topic and would love to hear your opinions on how AI could impact love and relationships in the future, so let me know your thoughts in the comments below…

No AI was used to write this blog post or to create the video, the text has been written by me and the video is recorded, spoken and edited by myself. The only instances where any AI is used on this website is a simple image generator for pictures via Canva, which I then edit and use to accompanying my posts. Everything else is written, created, edited and posted by me, with no involvement from AI - Sorry, to drag on but it feels like these days that needs to be made clear. Thank you for reading x